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		<title>Discover Your Talents ala Brian Tracy</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Jan 2010 11:03:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dirk Tietjen</dc:creator>
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I have talked about finding your passions in this Blog before. Here is another great essay which can help finding the right business:
When we do strategic planning for corporations, the first thing we think about is how to increase the company’s rate of return on the equity it has invested in the business. This is [...]


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<p>I have talked about finding your passions in this Blog before. Here is another great essay which can help finding the right business:</p>
<p>When we do strategic planning for corporations, the first thing we think about is how to increase the company’s rate of return on the equity it has invested in the business. This is done by allocating more resources to areas with higher potential, and taking resources away from those with lower potential. By developing or promoting newer and better products and services, and discontinuing those that are less profitable, the company can channel its efforts in a way that maximizes its returns.</p>
<p><span id="more-10092"> </span>In doing personal strategic planning, the first thing you want to think about is how to maximize your personal “rate of return.” You need to realize that the most valuable thing you bring to your work is your ability to think, to act, and to get results. Your earning ability — which is a function of your education, knowledge, experience, and talents — is your equity. And the way you “invest” it will largely determine the quality and quantity of your material and psychological rewards.</p>
<p>A young man in one of my seminars came up to me and said that he was working as a plumber for a large contracting firm. He made good money, but he was envious of the salespeople in his company who made more money, drove nicer cars, wore nicer clothes, and had much better lifestyles.</p>
<p>He had completed his training, had his journeyman’s certificate, and was at the top of his wage scale. The only way he could earn more money in his current job was by working longer hours. Instead, he wanted to get into sales.</p>
<p>I told him that if he wanted to get into sales, it was up to him to learn how to sell — and then to do everything possible to get his boss to give him the chance to sell the company’s plumbing services. His future was up to him. But he first had to learn how to do the new and higher-paying job.</p>
<p>A little more than a year later, he attended another one of my seminars… and brought me up to date on his situation. He had told his boss that he wanted to get into sales. His boss discouraged him, telling him that plumbers have very little aptitude for the skills involved in selling a service. He then asked his boss what he would have to do to prove to him that he could do it. To make a long story short, his boss helped him learn how to sell the company’s services by recommending that he study manuals and take extra courses on his own time.</p>
<p>And that’s what he did. He bought books and listened to tapes and spent time talking to the company’s salespeople. As a result, he became a full-fledged salesman.</p>
<p>After five months in his new job, he was already earning more than twice as much as he had ever earned as a plumber. But most of all, he was happier.</p>
<p>He was more enthusiastic about his work than he had ever been. He loved selling, and he considered his career change to be one of the best decisions he had ever made.</p>
<p>This is typical of countless stories that have been related to me over the years. In every case, the individual had discovered and developed his or her strengths — and, subsequently, improved the quality of his or her life. You can do the same thing.</p>
<p>Thinking of yourself passively — as being employed and, therefore, subject to the dictates of someone else — can be fatal to your long-term success. In reality, you’re the president of your own personal-services corporation. You’re completely in charge of production, quality control, training and development, marketing, finance, and promotion.</p>
<p>Seeing yourself as self-employed forces you to recognize that you are also self-responsible and self-determining. That everything that happens to you happens because of your conduct and your behavior. You’re in the driver’s seat. You’re behind the steering wheel of your life. It’s up to you to decide how to utilize your talents and abilities in such a way as to bring you the very highest return on the investment of your time and energy.</p>
<p>No one else is going to do it for you. Others can help you, guide you, direct you, channel you, point you in the right direction, and even give you opportunities.</p>
<p>But in the final analysis, you’re the boss. No one else can make the critical decisions that will determine your future and your fortune. To that end, here are four questions that you need to ask yourself on a regular basis:</p>
<blockquote><p>1. What do I most enjoy doing?</p>
<p>2. How would I describe my ideal job?</p>
<p>3. If I could have any job at all, anywhere, what would it be?</p>
<p>4. If I won a million dollars in the lottery and I had to pick something to work at indefinitely, what would I choose to do?</p></blockquote>
<p>To uncover your strengths and determine your unique talents and abilities, ask yourself:</p>
<ul>
<li>What have I been good at in the past?</li>
<li>What things do I do easily that seem to be difficult for other people?</li>
<li>In what areas of work do I seem to get the best results… and derive the most pleasure?</li>
</ul>
<p>The answers to all of these questions will give you a good idea as to how you might increase your return on the energy you invest.</p>
<p>Then look at your current job, and ask yourself:</p>
<ul>
<li>Where do I want to be in three to five years?</li>
<li>What kind of work do I want to be doing?</li>
<li>What kind of people do I want to be working with?</li>
<li>What level of responsibility do I desire?</li>
<li>What kind of money do I want to be earning?</li>
<li>What part of the country do I want to be living in?</li>
</ul>
<p>Look at your work and at your life in general, and ask yourself:</p>
<ul>
<li>What kind of people do I admire and most want to be like?</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>Who do I know, or know about, who is doing the kind of work that I want to do and isliving the kind of life that I want to live?</li>
</ul>
<ul>
<li>What changes would I have to make in my life to be like that person?</li>
</ul>
<p>Remember: Whatever anyone has done, someone else can do as well. You’ll never be exactly the same as another person, but you don’t need to be. You can use the successes and achievements of other people as guidelines to help you decide where you want to arrive at the end of your particular journey. But you can be unique and different and successful in your own way.</p>
<p>As a result of your genetic structure, your education, your experiences, your background, your interests and proclivities, you’re a unique and rare combination of talents and abilities. You can be extremely good at something. And it’s your responsibility to find out what that something is.</p>
<p>Whatever you’re doing today, it’s nowhere near what you’re really capable of doing. The key to a happy and prosperous life is for you to regularly evaluate your strengths and weaknesses, to become very good in the areas you most enjoy, and then to throw your whole heart into what you’re doing.</p>
<p>By <a title="Posts by Brian Tracy" href="http://www.earlytorise.com/author/brian-tracy/">Brian Tracy</a></p>
<p>[Ed. Note: Relax and allow positive affirmations to flow through your subconscious mind.<strong> </strong> Feed your mind the fuel it needs while you rest. This powerful CD includes 10 powerful affirmations with music. You simply let yourself relax as Brian Tracy talks to your subconscious mind. <strong><a style="font-weight: bold; color: #15528b;" href="http://briantracy.directtrack.com/z/820/CD1430/" target="_blank">Find out more here</a></strong>.</p>
<p>And for more help setting and achieving the goals that will get you your dream job, check out ETR's <em>Ephiphany Alliance</em> program. With Bob Cox as your mentor, you'll learn the time-management strategies and success techniques you need to accomplish more in one day than most people do in a week. Check out the <em>Epiphany Alliance</em> <strong><a style="font-weight: bold; color: #15528b;" href="https://web-purchases.com/TSG/ETSGL128/landing.html" target="_blank">here</a></strong>.]</p>
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<p align="”left”">Hope you enjoyed, thanks for reading,  Dirk</p>
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		<title>Malcolm Gladwell &#8211; Why do some succeed where others fail? What makes high-achievers different?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 12 Jan 2010 15:49:04 +0000</pubDate>
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Malcolm Gladwell, two-time number one national bestselling author of The Tipping Point and Blink, discussed his latest book Outliers and more at a Penn alumni event at the Hudson Union Society. Very interesting stuff &#8211; read his books, i f you can.
Cheers, Dirk



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<p><span>Malcolm Gladwell, two-time number one national bestselling author of The Tipping Point and Blink, discussed his latest book Outliers and more at a Penn alumni event at the Hudson Union Society. Very interesting stuff &#8211; read his books, i f you can.</span></p>
<p><span>Cheers, Dirk</span></p>
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		<title>20 questions to be aware of when being asked!</title>
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Stupid questions &#8211; really stupid or manipulative?
There are people who are known for asking stupid questions, so that the other person feels inadequate, unattractive or doesn’t know how to act. These people want to influence other people to do something which that person does not really want to do. In fact we all are often [...]


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<p><strong>Stupid questions &#8211; really stupid or manipulative?</strong></p>
<p>There are people who are known for asking stupid questions, so that the other person feels inadequate, unattractive or doesn’t know how to act. These people want to influence other people to do something which that person does not really want to do. In fact we all are often a bit like that, using those “killerphrases” on a subconscious level.</p>
<p>Mothers and fathers, bosses, good friends, spouses and relatives &#8211; all of us use some of the most insidious manipulations. And if you complain we/they simply say: &#8220;I only asked.&#8221; <img src='http://www.dirktietjen.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p><strong>Check out here whether you are manipulating or being manipulated or both?</strong></p>
<p>Here are a few classic examples:<br />
1. &#8220;You do not go away before you&#8217;re finished working, right?&#8221;<br />
2. &#8220;But you have nothing important planned on Sunday,right?&#8221;<br />
3. &#8220;How can you say such a thing?&#8221;<br />
4. &#8220;How is it possible that such a pretty girl like you want to be an engineer?&#8221;<br />
5. &#8220;So, what do you mean?&#8221; You have still not said a word today.&#8221;<br />
6. &#8220;Have you ever considered the consequences carefully?&#8221;<br />
7. &#8220;You look so sad. Is something wrong?&#8221;<br />
8. &#8220;Do I Interrupt?<br />
9. &#8220;Is that all?&#8221;<br />
10. &#8220;Do you have a few minutes?&#8221;<br />
11. &#8220;May I fankly express my opinion?&#8221;<br />
12. &#8220;Don`t you think you should get a different hairstyle (different clothes, different shoes)?&#8221;<br />
13. &#8220;Don`t you think that you should change your personality?&#8221;<br />
14. &#8220;You&#8217;re not going to do that really, are you?&#8221;<br />
15. &#8220;Have you gained weight lately?&#8221;<br />
16. &#8220;Will you eat all that?&#8221;<br />
17. &#8220;Dont you think that you àre playing the music a bit too loud?&#8221;<br />
18. &#8220;Today is the deadline for your work, isn`t it?&#8221;<br />
19. &#8220;How can you say such a thing?&#8221;<br />
20. &#8220;Anything else?&#8221;</p>
<p>These questions are an example of the great work of Dorothy Leeds (Author &amp; Expert). Dorothy has a Master&#8217;s degree from Columbia University and is listed in Who&#8217;s Who in the East and Who&#8217;s Who in Executives &amp; Professionals. In her book <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0425176592?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=thedirktietje-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=0425176592">Smart Questions: The Essential Strategy for Successful Managers</a><img style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=thedirktietje-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=0425176592" border="0" alt="" width="1" height="1" /> you can find many more excellent examples how to improve your communication and be aware of manipulative questions.</p>
<p>2 your learning success, Dirk</p>


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		<pubDate>Sun, 08 Nov 2009 19:05:49 +0000</pubDate>
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You get more out of your relationships with others — more easily — by not approaching them directly. It’s because of something called the Law of Indirect Effort.
For example, if you want to impress someone, the direct way to do it is to point out your admirable qualities and accomplishments. But talking about yourself usually [...]


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<p>You get more out of your relationships with others — more easily — by <em>not</em> approaching them directly. It’s because of something called the Law of Indirect Effort.</p>
<p>For example, if you want to impress someone, the direct way to do it is to point out your admirable qualities and accomplishments. But talking about yourself usually makes you feel a little foolish. (And sometimes embarrassed.)</p>
<p><span id="more-9304"> </span></p>
<p>The indirect way to impress another person is simply to be impressed by him. The more impressed you are — by who he is or what he has accomplished — the more impressed he will be by you.</p>
<p>If you want to get someone interested in you, the direct way is to tell him all about yourself. But the indirect way works better. Simply become interested in him. The more interested you become in him, the more interested he will become in you.</p>
<p>If you want to be happy, the direct way is to do things that will make you happy. However, the most enjoyable and lasting form of happiness comes from making someone else happy. It’s the Law of Indirect Effort at work again. When you do or say anything that makes someone else happy, you feel happy yourself. You boost your own spirits, your own self-esteem.</p>
<p>How do you get another person to respect you? The best way is to respect him. When you demonstrate respect or admiration for another person, he feels respect and admiration for you. Sociologists call this the Principle of Reciprocity. When you do something nice for someone else, that person will want to reciprocate by doing something nice for you. (Most romances and friendships are based on this principle.)</p>
<p>How do you get a person to believe in you? The answer is to believe in him. By showing that you have confidence in him, he will have confidence in you too.</p>
<p>You get what you give. What you send out, you get back.</p>
<p>The most important application of the Law of Indirect Effort has to do with developing a healthy personality. You are structured in such a way that everything you do to someone else has a reciprocal effect on you. Everything you do to raise the self-esteem of another person raises your own self-esteem — at the same time and in the same measure. Since self-esteem is the hallmark of a healthy personality, you can actually improve the health of your own personality by taking every opportunity to improve the health of the personalities of others.</p>
<p>What you sow in the lives of others, you reap in your own life.</p>
<p>Everyone you meet is carrying a heavy load. This is especially true in the area of self-esteem and self-confidence. Everyone grows up with the need to be praised and recognized. No matter how successful or how elevated people become, they still need to have their self-images reinforced.</p>
<p>There is a line that says, “I like you because of the way I feel about myself when I am with you.” This line contains the key to human relations. The happiest men and women are those who make other people feel good about themselves when they are with them.</p>
<p>When you go through life raising the self-esteem of others, opportunities will open up. And people will help you in ways you cannot now imagine. So take every opportunity to say and do things that make other people feel more valuable. Each time you express a kindness toward another person, your own self-esteem improves. Your own personality becomes more positive and healthy.</p>
<p>The way to raise the self-esteem of others is simply to make them feel important. Everything you do or say that makes another person feel more important boosts his self-esteem at the same time.</p>
<p>When you practice the Law of Indirect Effort — going through your day looking for ways to make others feel important — you will be popular and welcome everywhere. You will be healthier and happier. You will get more real satisfaction from life. You will have lower levels of stress and higher levels of energy. You will experience greater peace of mind. Above all, you will genuinely like and respect yourself.</p>
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When I was in my thirties, I was urged to run for political office. I put together a campaign committee of about 12 enthusiastic supporters. And I started to get carried away with the idea of making a difference in my state.
Then I called a politician I had worked with. I asked him if he [...]


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<p>When I was in my thirties, I was urged to run for political office. I put together a campaign committee of about 12 enthusiastic supporters. And I started to get carried away with the idea of making a difference in my state.</p>
<p>Then I called a politician I had worked with. I asked him if he had any advice. I still remember his words: “Are you financially independent?”</p>
<p>When I told him that I was a long way from financial independence, he said that if I ran for office in my thirties (successfully), I would never be financially independent. I would have a much lower income than I could earn in the private sector. And I would probably worry about money all my life.</p>
<p>That slammed the brakes on my political ambitions. I folded my campaign and went back to work as a business consultant and real estate developer. Eventually, I became a professional speaker.</p>
<p>It has been said, “A butterfly flapping its wings in Peru can start a change in the weather that leads to a typhoon in China.” The application of this idea is that even a casual meeting with an acquaintance can have major long-term effects.</p>
<p>At every stage of your life, there will be someone giving you insights and guidance that can point you in a better direction. At the same time, you can be the person giving insights and guidance that will help others.</p>
<p>How many times has your direction changed because you interacted with another person? Sometimes an observation from someone with more experience can change your destiny.</p>
<p><em>The Secret</em> has been a bestseller for years. According to the book, “If you visualize and think positive thoughts, you will attract all good things into your life.”</p>
<p>Unfortunately, this idea is misleading. Of course, it is important to think positive thoughts. But that is not enough. You must also take continuous action in the direction of your goals, overcoming resistance, adversity, and temporary failures.</p>
<p>Success is not based on the Law of Attraction. It is based on the Law of Probabilities. This law says that there is a probability that everything can happen. And that you can influence those probabilities by doing more of the things that are likely to lead to your success.</p>
<p>Interacting with others is one of those things.</p>
<p>The salesperson who sees more prospects is going to make more sales than the one who stays in the office and shuffles business cards. The professional who networks with other professionals is going to dramatically increase the probability that he will meet the right person, at the right time, with the right insight or guidance that will lead to a career breakthrough.</p>
<p>Networking is one of the surest ways to improve your chances of meeting the right people.</p>
<p>How do you network? Go to industry events. Join a local entrepreneurs’ group. Attend continuing education workshops in your field. Interview successful people. However you network, you’ll meet people who can help you succeed… faster than you could do it on your own.</p>
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